When a child arrives into a family, it is essential that we understand that it is us who have to change our lifestyles to accommodate the child’s. In fact, the past as we know it is over and a new chapter begins in which the child is the lead character.
As a result of the parents not being able to let go of their old habits, the child suffers. A child is God’s gift and she needs to be nurtured, and no matter what, her home is always her parents’ unconditional embrace.
I don’t care what the best school systems are out there. I am not interested in the indoctrinating institutions under the umbrella of “education”. The real schooling begins at home and ends at home. The job of the parent is not to centralize the child’s developmental years within the extremities of existence: that means we are not here to forcefully brainwash our kids to be the carbon copies of us, and we are not here to ignore them days in days out because of our puny pleasures. We are here to find an equanimous way to raise a child where we can BE the creative and healthy space in which the child can grow up without us ever taking that space away from them.
After the parent as the initial mentor, the school will be the next place where the child will go solely for education and to intermingle with other children. Education means learning certain subjects such as math, literature, language, geography, etc. I don’t need a school system that teaches ethical values to my child. She will learn that at home by simply observing how her parents interact with each other and with the world. She will also read world literature and filter things through herself. That is the inexplicable but miraculous reason that a child is sent to be born to specific parents. These parents have been trusted to be selfless and to sacrifice their lives (not necessarily by standing in front of a firing squad (( but if needed, they shall )).
Yes, children are here to help us figure out who we are. That is why they are a gift to us. If we don’t let go of our egoistic needs and wants, we will never know who we are beyond our wants and needs... and what a pity and a waste of a lifetime of not knowing who we truly are.
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